More on my Grandfather...

Over the last few weeks since my grandfather's death. I've been shocked about some of the great things I've learned about him. I always knew Grandpa was a humble man...he never talked much about his time in Africa, other than about some of the great animal stories (lions, crocodiles and snakes, in particular). He never really said much about his ministry. Grandpa and Grandma (who passed away last April), were missionaries in both Sudan and Ethiopia to the the Nuer (pronounced "Nooair). I knew that they helped run a medical clinic, grew fruits and vegetables and generally did what we would consider now days as pioneer mission work. Until today however, I wasn't aware of how succesful his mission work was. Today, I received this email from a couple of pastors in Ethiopia. I've done a little bit of editing in order to make it a little more understandable to American readers:

We have heard that Charles Jordan has gone to the Lord three weeks ago. We know that you might have been in difficult time in remembering his good rest and celebrating the Lord’s birth. We did not hear it on time. However; we want to assure you that father Jordan his now with the Lord. He had completed the tasks that God assigned him to do on the earth. Jordan and his family were the founders of the Nuer Christian faith in Ethiopia. It had been tremendous job that God had assisted them to accomplish. His good rest is not difficult to you alone but also to those of us Charles Jordan and his family brought the Good News. But we know that Charles Jordan and his wife will meet us some time in Heaven because we all are guests on this earth. He has rested and he is now with the Lord Jesus Christ.

He and his wife started a small Congregation at Adura late in 1961 at mission station and that Congregation had grown up to 142 Congregations in Ethiopia Nuer with a total membership of 68,872. He was the first Pastor ordained for the Nuer in Ethiopa and now there are 48 pastors working for the Nuer Congregations. They have achieved their goals in accomplishing the tasks they were given by God. In Roman Chapter 14: 8 says “If we live, we live to the Lord; and if we die, we die to the Lord. So, whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord.” This is a very important message to all of us.

As we remember the good rest of Charles Jordan, we as the Congregation in Gambella celebrated Charles Jordan’s good rest on Saturday December 22, 2007, where 1500 people attended the service dedicated to Charles Jordan’s good work in Nuer Congregations. The Congregation reflected upon his work in Adura and many who knew Charles Jordan particularly the first converts Nuer Christians spoke about good work of Charles Jordan and his family. Everything was remembered for them. In that meeting, collecting was made and it was decided to raise fund for Jordan remembrance. The Congregations decided to raise fund in order to do something for Jordan’s remembrance. The final decision will be made in Synod executive meeting that will take place at Matar (one of the Presbyteries in Wanthao) in February 2008. We will let you know about it. We want to encourage you to help us in prayer that this vision will be reality. The Congregation s said that Jordan had challenged their lives and want to remember him.

We just want to tell you that we are with you and would like to assure you that Jordan is now with the Lord in this season of the year.

Please send us pictures of Jordan if any when you come down here.

Thank

James Gatdet & Rev. Matthew

Family Worship and Unattentive Children

Ligon Duncan has given some great advice for family worship, especially to young families over on A Cross Centered Blog:

The TSS mailbag is filled with excellent questions from readers. One such question comes from Phil, a man striving for a consistent family worship schedule despite an unattentive little child. What to do? Dr. J. Ligon Duncan has written about family worship and so I passed the question along to him for his advice. He kindly responded with this excellent perspective:

My own answer is you start family worship as soon as possible, as soon as one is
married, and continue it after children come along, no matter how young the
children are (and the younger the better). The point is not for the youngest
children to be able to comprehend (or even to sit still during it!). The point
is impress upon them, by paternal example the priority of God and his word in
all of life. Read the whole thing here

My Kids are Disgusting!!....

.....at least 3 of them are. I just finished watching Nolan, Gideon and Haddon have graham crackers for lunch. They were dipping them in ranch dressing and enjoying it!

Interview with CJ Mahaney on Biblical Manhood

This comes from the Sovereign Grace Ministries website:

At a recent regional conference of Sovereign Grace churches, Steve Shank interviewed C.J. Mahaney about biblical masculinity. Questions covered topics such as…
What counsel do you have for young men facing peer pressure and temptation? What does it mean to be a young man in the making?
How can fathers train their sons in godliness?
How do you make sure you are growing as a man?
How can men develop friendships characterized by honesty, accountability, and encouragement?
Download MP3 (right-click and select “Save Target As” or “Save Link As”)

More Difficulties with Family Worship

Confession time. I'm ashamed to admit that quite often I just feel too tired (or maybe it's lazy), to engage with my kids in a quality time of family devotions. I think I've made "quiet time" (the time when mom and dad finally have some peace and quiet) an idol. So often, I just rush through it to get it done, or worse yet, just skip it altogether because things have just been too hectic. Also, it just seems sometimes like it's a war, just to keep everyone quiet and sitting down. Lord, please forgive me. I know that I so often go into this time with a "just get it done" attitude. What does this teach my children about the importance of spending time with God? The crazy thing is when I don't approach it in this way, I walk away being so blessed. It's amazing how much more the boys pay attention when they can see that I'm not rushing through it in an aggravated state of mind.
This month we are using Noel Piper's advent calendar as a devotional tool for our boys. I would link to it, but I know that they are sold out this year and I think they are looking into a re-design for next year. Each evening, up through Christmas morning, the boys will take turns putting a figure on the calendar.

Charles Jordan, 1917-2007

Today, a legend died--my Grandfather. Why do I call him a legend you ask? Well here's why: The guy spent 25 years in Sudan and Ethiopia as a missionary. I don't know every single one of the details of everything he did over there. But I do know that many of the believers over there know who he is. Besides that, a few years ago, I ran into a lady who knew him while he lived here in Tennessee. She told me that she has never known anyone to have such an incredible prayer life. Upon thinking back on it myself, I believe the guy may have spent 5 hours per day in his prayer journal. The rest of the day, he spent in his garden. Grandpa was a gardener like no one I have ever known. In his early retirement years, he had a garden that was probably an acre in size, and he grew every vegetable that has ever been known to man and probably a few that no one has ever heard of.
Grandpa was also loved the local church. He was an elder in one of our local PCA churches for many years. He was always involved in church activities in one way or another.
Grandpa was a sinner saved by grace. Later in his life, he privately shared with me some of his downfalls when I had gone through some great downfalls of my own. His sharing these things with me, gave me great hope in my savior's forgiveness and his desire to work through sinful and broken people. For that, I am most thankful. He will be missed greatly.

Building Bridges

The last few days for me have been absolutely exhausting but such a blessing. I've been attending the Building Bridges- Southern Baptists and Calvinism conference in Ridgecrest, NC. I was so happy that my friend Mark from Atlanta was able to join me. In order to save some $$, we decided to drive back to my home in Johnson City, TN every evening. This ended up being about an 1-1/2 hour drive each way. Overall, I think the conference was very helpful in uniting Southern Baptists with different theological views. My favorite speech's/sermons were given by Jeff Noblit, Nathan Finn, Tom Ascol, and Daniel Akin. I was really disappointed that Voddie Baucham couldn't make it, but he was replaced by Don Whitney (whom I'm sure was good but I left to go home early because I wasn't feeling to well). You can listen to the conference messages here.

I Think this is Hillarious!

Compliments of TBNN

The Difficulties of Family Worship

Last year, my wife and I had a conversation with our pastor and his wife concerning doing devotions with our children. I confessed that I was really having a tough time with getting to get the kids to pay attention. Noticing that they had successfully reared godly children, we asked how they did family devotions. I was somewhat surprised to hear how difficult it had been for them too. I was relieved. Up until recently, family devotions has been a nightmare. It seemed that they related devotions with bedtime. They knew that once I started reading a Bible story, that the end was coming and they were having to go to bed. So, I'm not sure if it was bed they were protesting to or the devotions time. Anyway, I sadly confess there have been times where I've gone weeks without doing anything. I'm so sad to admit this. I totally failed in leading my family spiritually. This is a lousy excuse, but sometimes it just seemed more stressful than it was worth. Yeah, that's a terrible excuse. Anyway, things have changed over the last few weeks. I'm not sure why, but there are a few things we are doing differently and we have implemented some very helpful resources. The kids still whine some but things have become much more manageable. So, for you dads out there that struggle with this, you aren't alone. But I want you to know that this is still something we must take a hold of and do for our children. In the coming weeks, I'll be sharing some more thoughts and ideas on how to lead our family in a special worship time on a regular basis.

Manna in the Morning

by Tim Challies
This article by Tim Challies really convicted me on how I often slide into trusting myself to provide for my family. This was such a convicting article. I still need so much more reforming.

Have you ever stopped to ponder what it might have been like for the Israelites as they wandered in the wilderness, knowing that each day they would completely exhaust their food supply? Have you thought what it would be like knowing that they would go to bed with no food, but that the next day their supplies would be fully and miraculously replenished? It is an interesting, thought, really, and one that is worth considering.
In the Wilderness
Imagine that you are an Israelite father or mother and that you have three or four young children depending on you. Imagine putting these children to bed in the evening, knowing that there is not a bit of food to be found anywhere in your tent. Just to be sure, you wander over to the fridge and open it up. The glare from the light shows nothing but the glistening white of the inside of the Kenmore. There is nothing on any of the shelves; nothing in any of the drawers. There isn’t even a mostly-empty jar of relish left over from when you made burgers a few weeks earlier. There isn’t a clove of garlic or an old stick of butter. There is nothing. You close the door and open the freezer and as you wave your hand to brush aside the mist, you see that every corner of the freezer is empty. You turn to the nearby pantry and, looking high and low, see that there is not a bag, not a box, not a jar to be found. You have no food. Nothing.
As you tuck your daughter into bed that night, she says, “Daddy, what will we eat for breakfast tomorrow?” And with utter sincerity and utter confidence you say, “God will provide.” And, despite the bare cupboards and the empty fridge, you are able to go to sleep that night with full confidence that there will be food for you the next day. When you wake in the morning, you unlock the tent door, step outside, and see the world around covered in food like frost on a cold morning. You are able to quickly and easily collect enough food for the day, and can head inside knowing that the children will have all the food they need that day. As you nuke their mannapancakes, you whisper a prayer of gratitude that God provided again. Yet again.
But you also know that God has provided for only that day. The manna that lay on the ground was not enough for today and tomorrow. As the sun rises in a few minutes, the manna will melt into the ground and be gone. God has not provided for a week or a month or a quarter—He has provided for only one day at a time. You have heard of people who doubted God’s providence and hoarded manna, packing it into Tupperware and stuffing it into the deepest recesses of their fridges, freezers, and cupboards. But when they took it out and tried to eat it, they found it was rotten and disgusting, crawling with worms and smelling worse than sandaled feet in a hot desert. You know that as day fades into night, and as you prepare the evening meal, you’ll find that you have just enough manna to eat, and that as you close your eyes in sleep, you’ll lie in peace, knowing that God will provide again tomorrow. But only for tomorrow.
God knows better than to give manna for a month. If He did that, you know that you would soon forget about your reliance on Him. For twenty nine days you would forget what it was like to lay down at night with your only confidence being in God’s provision. Instead you would lay down knowing that the cupboard was stuffed full of manna. And you would forget about God, at least until the end of the month came around. Perhaps then you would begin to call out to Him again and begin to beseech His provision. You know the lesson God wants you to learn.
I’ve often wondered how the faith of the Israelites could ever waver. I’m sure you’ve wondered the same. How could the Israelites constantly turn against God despite all He had done and all they had witnessed. They had seen God do miraculous deeds in leading them out of Egypt. They had seen His hand time and time again as they made their way toward the promised land. And every morning God delivered food, food that was abundant and delicious. Every day He gave them what they needed for the day, and asked them to trust that He would do the same tomorrow. Never did He let them down and never did He give them cause to doubt His providence. But they did. They doubted His motives, they doubted His ability and they doubted His sincerity.
Unchanging Promises
God’s promise to provide has not changed. God still promises that He will provide and He still promises to provide only for today. Jesus says, “Do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? … Do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble” (Matthew 6:25, 34). And yet there are times when we still find ourselves paralyzed with fear, looking into the future and seeing not God’s strength, but our own weakness; we looking forward and see our inability rather than God’s power. But God still promises manna in the morning—He promises that He will take care of our needs.
There was a time in my life, just a few years ago, when money was tight. It was tight enough that Aileen and I often really doubted that we would be able to pay our rent and car payments. Some days we didn’t even know how we would be able to buy groceries. I would often wake up in the middle of the night in a cold sweat, my heart pounding, wondering how I would scrape together enough money to keep us in our house. I would sometimes sit down with a pen and piece of paper and try to plot out the next few months—this was the money we anticipated spending and this was the amount I thought I would bring in between then and now. Rarely were these exercises any sort of comfort. More often than not they would increase my despair, leaving me to conclude that there was nothing I could do—we would lose our car and be forced to move.
But that never happened. There was always manna in the morning. God always provided, though only one day at a time. And he has continued to do so. I don’t remember the last time I woke up in the night with my heart pounding, panicked at the thought of the bills lying on my desk. It’s not that we have become wealthy or that our bills have decreased. Rather, God has helped me to understand that He has promised manna in the morning. When I am tempted to worry, I need only look to His promises and then to look to the past where I can see His hand of provision, day after day after day. He has always given manna in the morning and I have confidence that he will do so again tomorrow.

Mexico Praise Report

This has nothing to do with being a dad..which is something I will be doing on occasion. I just read my friend Aaron's blog. We are exploring some ways of partnering to reach the lost people in Mexico. Just this past weekend, he took a group into a small village where they have been on several other occasions. The good news is that he is reporting that the Lord has used them to bring two new converts into His kingdom. This is such good news to me and my heart just leaped for joy when I saw this news. I'm am so overjoyed because I know that this brother is very serious about not presenting a "cheap grace" type of gospel and he is very careful in presenting a gospel that talks about God's wrath toward sin. He takes much care to not preach a "sugar coated" gospel. I would really encourage you to go over and read his blog so you can rejoice and pray for the people in Mexico.

Battle with Gideon

No, I'm not speaking of the Bible character. I'm speaking of that cute little guy holding the lollipop in the banner up above. One of the toughest things about being a dad is being persistent in disciplining your children in a consistent manner without compromise. Last night, before dinner time, my precious little Gideon refused to pick up some toys when daddy asked him to. I won't go into all the details, but we basically had a battle of wills that ended with a little boy missing his dinner and going to bed with very sore buttocks. During this whole "ordeal", I was tempted several times to just let him go, knowing that he would calm down if I allowed him to just do what he wanted to do. That terrible shrieking and crying was about to get on my last nerve. Yet, I knew that if I did not carry it completely through, that it would be a most unloving thing for me to allow my son to do. The ordeal probably lasted about 30 minutes although it felt like hours. My friends, I don't know about you, but when this shrieking and incessant screaming goes on for more than about 2 minutes, I feel like I'm losing my mind. The other temptation I deal with in these situations is to act out of anger. So, here are some suggestions I'm going to come up with on how to prevent this:

1) Before beginning any discipline, pray and ask the Lord for wisdom on how to handle
the situation.

2) Remind yourself of the ways in which the Lord disciplines you! He is kind and
slow to anger.

3) Predetermine that you will not back down no matter how bad things are going to get
and how long proper behavior will be achieved.

4) Examine your heart. Why are you disciplining? Is it because the child is annonying
you or is it because the child is participating in sinful behavior (this is a big
one for me).

Let's give this a shot

Well, here's my first post. I'm hoping to primarily use this as a place where I can honestly share with the world, my struggles and desires to be a godly father to my kids and a faithful husband to my wife. In this, I not only want to share any insight I may have into fatherhood, but I want to be frank and honest in areas where I feel like I struggle greatly. You're invited to come along for the ride!